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Misery loves motivation

I’ve read a couple of “self-help” books in my life, or “motivational” books.
The first 2 had me going, but subsequent to that, they just made me more and more angry.

My beesinthebonnet about self help books are that they oversimplify and, I believe, after the initial fuzziness and motivation, they set most people into further unhappiness than they were in previously.
Most who read them can’t follow through on the advice, not because they’re lazy or stupid, but because the situation they’re in isn’t the result of some accident.And it isn’t always the result of them being lazy OR stupid. Life sometimes just hands peoples tough circumstances. If they were circumstances that could easily be fixed, they would have been fixed.

Motivational books draw out a roadmap that, in substance, trivialises the path to planned success.I’m not saying it’s useless for everyone, there must be a percentage of people who really do derive benefit from it, or at least some benefit from it.But by and large I think people try and fail, for reasons outlined above, and all the ferver that these books excite lands with a hard thump. More than that, having tried and failed to change their situation, it just makes their situation seem worse, because of the contrast to the grand picture of possibility painted by the “gurus”.

Lives are as they are because of many reasons, decisions made having some impact, but internal responsiveness have the most impact. An imposed formula of how to live can’t ever work, realisations need to first be made, sincerely, followed by an organic approach to implementation.

On the point of making decisions, there aren’t good or bad decisions, the outcomes may be good or bad, but deciding on one option over the other, if done with all the available information on hand, can’t be done very much differently. We decide based on what we have available, we don’t have knowledge of the future to assist us, only our interepretation of the immediate. You can’t blame yourself on that. You can however blame yourself on deciding on something in spite of knowing differently, clouded by emotion or pressure. Although even with all the rational factors, intuition/inclination is usually the more important deciding factor. And that, can perhaps be regretted as a bad decision, but its near impoosible to remove that angle from any decision.

Mental ricocchets on the decision making point.But firm on the self help books suck.Although maybe their principles are what’s important…. Shucks, mental ricocchets on both.

January 23, 2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , | 1 Comment